August 5, 2007

• Progress & Projects

  Taking
  time away to refresh and renew is something important that all of us
  should do.  Often I hear people muse about my ability to spend time
  alone and question their aptitude to do the same.  Many refuse to even
  take the step of going out alone – to the movies, to dinner, or any
  social outing.  My question is “why”? 

  There is nothing to be
  embarrassed about, it is quite relaxing, and definitely it demonstrates
  individualism and independence. 

  I spent a few days nestled in the redwoods in a little town called Ben Lomond. 
  It was very quiet and peaceful.  With a short drive, I was at the
  beach.  I loved spending the day walking along the shore, sitting and
  listening to the waves, and deeply breathing in the crisp air. 

  After several days I felt energized to return to my busy life. 
  Coaching, writing, parenting, and continual home maintenance and
  improvement awaited my return. 
  

  
  I was pleased to enlist several new clients to my practice and I’m
  planning on scheduling a couple of telegroups.  I’m developing a new
  dating website for “Cougar Ladies” (www.cougarladies.com) and the men
  who love them.  It’s based on the show Age of Love which puts
  powerful 40-somethings against 20 somethings.  It’s so interesting and
  enjoyable to watch.  What it highlighted and confirmed to me was that
  we, 40-somethings, are a force to be reckoned with.  As a young woman,
  I thought life was over when the big four-oh came to pass.  Now, I
  relish my age, my resoluteness, and allure. 

  What I’m
  additionally excited about is the cute fitted T that I designed to sell
  on the site.  These type of projects that resonate with who I am help
  drive me to meet with and interact with like-minded women as well as
  young ladies who are trying to find their way in the world.  If they
  are lost, it is often because they don’t fully embrace who they are. 
  They are tied to “completeness” by their partner, they determine their
  worth by others around them, and they often stay silent while another
  person is their voice. 

  It’s time for that to change.  We, as
  women, need to join together and support each other.  We need to
  encourage everyone to learn about who they are at the core of their
  being.  You are whole on your own.  You don’t have to have a partner to
  complete you.  There is no intention to insult, but that type of
  thinking is juvenile.  We are powerful within ourselves.  We each have
  so many wonderful attributes we can share with each other and the
  world. 
  

  Jealousy
  and insecurity breeds conflict.  Lack of integrity and standards leads
  to compromised values.  Compromised values lead to hurt, depression,
  and unnecessary pain.  Is that really what we want? 

  What
  does it say about you if you are involved in an illicit relationship
  with another woman’s man?  What does it say about you if you lie,
  cheat, and intentionally hurt other people?  Who are you if you’re
  willing to judge others based on superficial elements instead of
  knowing who they really are?  Jealousy is ugly.  It’s sad.  It’s more
  about you than the other person. 

  So, ladies…what are you
  willing to do for yourself?  Connect with others?  Find healing from
  the pain?  Involve yourself in healthy, non-destructive relationships? 
  Find the peace and love you deserve? 

  It’s time for us to
  take care of ourselves.  It’s time to support each other.  That’s why I
  love what I do.  I guide and teach people to do that for themselves. 
  They deserve it.

  We all do.

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