April 13, 2008
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Grace
Thanks for your comforting and supportive responses. No I wasn’t too hard on her, but I believe appropriately enough. This morning I went to look at the damage to the car and these people appear to be trying to take advantage of a situation. The damage the woman spoke of was not from my daughter’s car at all. It was evident through some investigation on my part that there was no way the existing marks, scrapes, and indents were from her vehicle or this situation. They tried as much as possible to try to make me believe it, but thankfully I’ve had training in accident investigation and was able to use that language to let them know that I was not going to be fooled. I sensed a feeling of discouragement on their part and there was a passive aggressive comment towards the end of our interaction stating, “yeah…if it was my kid, I’d do whatever I could to get them out of it.”. I promptly responded saying that my goal was to assess the damage from this incident and to ensure that it is appropriate, not to shield my daughter from any responsibility.
I’m comforted that the evidence doesn’t support the story, but annoyed, if not irritated that they tried to get over on a 17 year old, then her mother. I don’t think so – they got the wrong person!
With this all I need to show grace to my daughter. I think she understands the gravity of the situation and thankfully it resulted in no major damage nor injuries. That is the blessing in this all. I need to even show grace to these people. I could have been aggressive once I realized the direction of their actions, but instead I remained assertive and clear on the goal. I believe they got the idea.
Comments (10)
You should do a blog on how to avoid being bamboozled like that. I bet people get away with false claims like that all the time. I’m glad your daughter is OK.
good to hear that you’re daughter is fine. i remember when i got in my first car accident (it was my mom’s friend’s car and no one told me that the emergency break wasn’t all that great). i parked on a hill, and just to be sure that the car stayed in place, i put the emergency break on. i went into the store to pick something up for my mom’s friend and i came out looking for the car that i KNEW i parked in front of the store. it was down the hill, and i’m lucky because there were these little speed bumps in between each parking space that slowed the car down as it went down the hill. i’m also lucky that i wasn’t parked too far up that hill. i’m also so very grateful that no one was hurt. the car finally stopped because it hit another car and a hydrant (explaining that story to everyone was so very nerve wracking). i also “lucked up” because the car that got hit wasn’t damaged too badly, and they saw that the emergency brake was on.
but yea, the people were wrong for trying to get over on you and your daughter. that’s so not cool.
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I think you did a great job handling a siutation.
I think its sad she tired to get over on u daughter and u thats sad how some peopl are
Glad to hear your daughter is ok, and there was minimal damage to the cars. Isn’t it a shame that ADULTS act like that? Sounds like there was more than one lesson in it for your daughter! I never cease to be amazed at some people’s way of thinking…makes me mad just thinking about it! Have a great week!
wow…. good job handling that whole mess…
Some people are like that, they just try to take advantage of others…
Why is it so often that when a woman is assertive and firm they are still viewed as being aggressive?
RYC: must be, though I don’t do the typical female multitasking…. I play Need for Speed while listening to music and drinking Mountain Dew. Oh well.
And good luck with the whole convincing-them-that-you’re-not-paying thing.
U don;t looks that much older by the way both u and my mother look like ur 2 hott mommas
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Lou Diamond Phillps is playing in camlot over here it opens tonite i so wanna go to that too.
I grew up a stones throw away from NYC and i used to sing and dance b’way style
and thank you i am. my husband s keeping a close eye on me,