June 27, 2007
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Becoming a coaching parent
There are as many approaches to parenting as there are stars
in the sky, however I’ve found that with my personal parenting experience
coupled with my background in conflict and coaching, there is a powerful way to
help your children develop a level of emotional intelligence that allows them
to build an emotive vocabulary, learn to communicate assertively, and manage
their anger more effectively.The key is in questioning and the success specifically is based on the parent’s
level of interaction and utilizing our innate inquisitive nature to process
problems that arise in life and learn to work through them.Becoming a coaching parent means that you approach issues, concerns,
and development with a pure and curious place.
It means that instead of immediately instilling harsh consequences, you assist
them in learning about the impact of their choices and potential long and
short-term consequences. You might be
very surprised to learn that many children to understand that actions have
consequences and that they may offer up creative and appropriate ones of their
own! This can start at an early age and
it’s never to late to start. If you are
not yet in that place, here’s where you can start…Spend some time asking yourself the following questions –
these are just to start as you may find that more extensive depth and personal
analysis may follow.- What
is my philosophy about parenting? - What
type of person do I desire my child to be? - What
are their unique qualities and personal aspects that make them special? - How
can I encourage positive and responsible behavior for them? - Am I
modeling the type of life I would like my child to see/live?
These questions are for you and your partner to answer as
parents can and do have different parenting styles. If there has not been any previous
discussion, this can be a great start to begin communication and share any
concerns. Don’t be concerned if your
answers don’t match. At this point,
there are no right or wrong answers – just opportunities waiting to be
explored.
More to come…Karen, Parenting Partner
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Comments (4)
Some of those questions are hard hitting. Still, it’s good stuff. Now, if I can only get in a word edge wise between all the children’s noise.
Great post!!! Eventhough my children are young these questions are important…
Love ur post!!! They always have good info…
thanks for posting this.. so often i feel like i struggle with parenting.. and my kids are only soon to be 8 and 4!! it’s TOUGH! i appreciate ANY advice you give. as always, it’s wonderful advice. it’s really good to develop a philosophy about parenting if you don’t already have one b/c so many of us just get through day to day! you know?! always good to have a game plan, a goal.
hope you are doing well.
I guess this message is totally unparalleled.
You guys eliminate it real unproblematic for all the folks out there.