April 29, 2008
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Tricky Triangle
Have you ever been hurt by someone you love? Have you wanted to respect, trust, and believe in them again yet you might find it impossible to fathom? You may look at your past and the miserable things that happen, yet you fear the future and what potential pitfalls are there and you know what?…you’re not living in the present. You get stuck in this triangle of the past, the prediction of the future, and the present.
You know what the problem is? Is that we may spend too much time and energy on either side of what is happening in the here and now. It doesn’t mean you ignore the past because as we may have heard – it can be a good indicator of future behavior, but we shouldn’t spend so much time trying to predict what is going to happen. Anyone have a crystal ball? Do you really know what will happen in your future?
Do you use the past and the prediction of the future to keep you from living your life in the present? Does your fear of maturing, lack of discipline, diminished self-control, and refusal to let go of fear keep you captive? Are you not allowing yourself to love? Do you decline peace?
It’s pretty easy to do, but it is a conscious choice.
You can project blame about either side and keep yourself paralyzed in the middle so you don’t really live your life. You can feel safe in your self-induced sorrow and project blame onto life and those who are living it.
Sounds like a cop-out to me…
Comments (4)
You’re right. It is a cop out. The triangle is a very good analogy here. Well done.
Can U be my xanga therapist?
Because, again, you’ve diagnosed the root of my psychological problems (no joke). And I guess what U mentioned above comes with the territory of being a grudge holder.
Thank you for at least helping me see how I’m allowing past hurts to affect my future.
Your posts have definitely been a god-send.
my triggers are everything anything id o wrong in her eyes lol.
And I hold grudges sometimes but hardly ever and i know its hard to trust someone but i am a vey forgiving person my downfall.
i’ve missed your posts my friend.
i hope all (else?) is going well & better